How Going Vegan Helped my Relationship with My SuperMan

(This post discusses adult topics and uses adult words written in an Australian vernacular.)

I’ve spent 13 years, 14 this September, practicing the only known treatment for inhalant allergies to chemicals: avoidance behaviour. Due to digestion issues related to food intolerance that hit in 2002-3, at the age of 33 after years of normal chemical use, although I did love the smell of all of my female consumer-based beauty-care-products fiercely. I was wild, free and adored my collection of fragrances, red wine, drugs, cigarettes nail polish… ; yet, I spent the next decade needing to, after being advised by the one and only Australian renowned and respected Allergist and Immunologist, Dr Colin Little, here in Victoria, Australia,  to not waste money on quacks (my words) to practice chemical avoidance—wearing a 3M mask worked excellently for around 10 years or so of this ‘condition’ I have. My life changed immensely. I thrived at it. I recovered in 09′. Why did I leave the farm house? I need to blog about that.  Since 2012 though, after living in a water damaged building (WDB), I developed food intolerances that didn’t stop until, basically, all I was eating was fruit and veggies—yet still I was losing foods. I mean who reacts to bananas? Really? To paraphrase my doctor: Bananas are a food like any other! WTF!


So I switched to another high-carb food that gives rocking energy—if not cooked in oil [speaking to you Slobodan!] (Note to peeps who are not chronically ill: Please don’t tell sick people they look great just because they’ve lost some weight because they may be feeling like carnivore-shit on the inside (like dead corpses of other species coated to the inner intestine? Yeah? Got that picture?); and besides, life is not actually about being skinny but it’s bullshit if you don’t fit in your pants. Like, if you do want to lean out a little: Go Vegan. Or buy this cool t-shirt from The Anticarnist)

Sweet Potato Chips

My favourite Vegan Meal: Sweet Potato Fries

So there I was, sick as all fuck, sulking about being an accidental Vegan (I’d lost my milk chocolate Caramel Koalas, yeah? Those and hot glass of milk were my comfort food and I was not yet aware of the abundant and multitude of ways to whip up vegan treats. Food and cooking, not so much. That’s what boyfriends are for, I guess?) and, during the summer of 015′, there I was hanging out on YouTube: due to the need for human company, totally frustrated with FreeLee and her 10 banana smoothies capable of making me ill for the rest of the day (it’s not FreeLee’s fault, my body seems to think I need to release histamine to protect myself from bananas), or I am having a severe mould reaction to all bananas (I can only describe like a bad acid trip.) and  then only after being tortured with food testing, I came across this speech, titled, ‘The Greatest Speech You Will Ever Hear’ by Gary Yourofsky. Here is the video:

I saw this realising: accidental Veganism was/is not even about me: it’s about the planet, the animals and all of our health. Spiritually is lacking in my world. Becoming vegan has not cured my illness but it’s allowed me to eat food without getting ill. And I can shit; that’s important when you get to my age: 46.

My only problem with Vegansim was social: For now, I live an isolated life, and have a carer, I’m not able to cook, clean and, sometimes, even feed my own animals, and sometimes. I can’t lift heavy things so the man in my life, my best friend, Slobodan, does it all for me. I’m not good at being grateful for this, but worse:

I was left wondering, how can I have a close relationship with someone who wants to put a corpse in your frypan or oven when you yourself have woken up to the truth of animal cruelty?

My answer: I showed my man, Gary Yourofsky’s, ‘The Most Important Speech You Will Ever Hear‘ And before it even finished, he turned around and said to me: “Misha, I’m not doing this to the animals, anymore. I won’t do it; I can’t be a part of it!” This, coming from a 46-year-old man born and bread in a meat-eating Macedonian culture where family BBQ’s and meal times are passionate and full-on events. It kinda rocked my world. I find that hell sexy in man. You really have no idea how much different a vegan man is because he sees the world differently and doesn’t want to add to the pain; that’s special. And:

Vegan image of food: Macedonian Cuisine is to die for; ergo, not literally!

Metaphorically, Macedonian Cuisine is to die for; ergo, not literally! And certainly not be animals…

We are talking about traditional dishes nearly always containing animal-based products, and even more so, unless people are fasting for religious reasons, these dishes are plated up with piles of ‘chops’, pork, lamb, beef, seafood: all animal flesh sold as a with a bar code. He says:

A supermarket smells different. packaged flesh. It no longer normal in my world.

 (How can a pile plate full of lamb chops just go by the noun ‘lamb’? There’s maybe 7-8 baby sheep that were inhumanely slaughtered to get those ‘chops’ made from sliced corpses (that’s my imaginative guess). Just some food for thought there.). An old favourite of mine was meat stuffed into capsicums. Sausages hanging on the washing line. This was/is normal life for Slobodan to come home to. So when he sees animals in trucks or legal-animal torture on YouTube, he gets angry.

Going vegan has helped me cope with a Life Altering illness; it’s also helped with my only close relationship. I never thought I would get married due to so many complicated reasons but with veganism in common, it runs pretty deep: the connection, almost spiritual (after going raw when Slobodan first went vegan, it was spiritual and we shared that) the commitment, the caring for creatures who don’t have a voice to speak up for themselves: I find that compassion sexy in a man.

My ephipany: All people who have chemical sensitivity must do their utmost for the planet as their health depends upon it. And most people don’t give a fukc or even care about the planet. They are just as sucked into the consumerism marketed at them as fragrance heads–most, not all. They don’t give any fukcs for the animals tested on so that products are SAFE for consumers. LMFAO/ Safe for who? Burn shit into the atmosphere: Cigarettes and woodsmoke. *How shameful* Considering like 2.8% of people in just NSW alone have sensitivities to chemicals.

Anyway. This is my vegan mate Solomon.

He is my friend and professional therapist’s goat, Solomon, who had a rocky start to life but is funky fine and dandy now! I think there is a sister or something, I will update you at The Labyrinth with This.

Vegan Goat: Solomon: a special goat who had a rough start in life but is now going stronger than ever

Solomon: a special goat who had a rough start in life but is now going stronger than ever

PS: “If you are thinking about going vegan: do it for a month; if you don’t feel good after that, go back to eating shitty, greasy food made from animals’ flesh and byproducts… Go Raw for a week, then tell me how you feel.” ~ Vegan Revolution


Vegan Activist: Gary Yourofsky: a hero and another sexy vegan man

Gary Yourofsky: a hero and another sexy vegan man

with FreeLee and her 10 banana smoothies capable of making me ill for the rest of the day (it’s not FreeLee’s fault, my body seems to think I need to release histamine to protect myself from bananas)

Read More…

Veganism in The Labyrinth: Where is the Love?
Veganism in The Labyrinth: How To Explain Why You’re Vegan
Veganism in The Labyrinth: See the World Through Vegan Eyes
Veganism in The Labyrinth: My Vegan Story (Apologies for the 2334 words: This piece needs editing, still!, making it shorter: It was written stream of consciously then uploaded. Otherwise it wouldn’t have got up there)
Check out: Plant Based News
Vegan Revolution Podcasts
Twitter: SlobodanVegan (‘Slobodan’ in Macedonian means ‘Freedom’ (Also in Serbian or Croatian too, I believe). He has just made this video about what he takes in his lunchbox as a vegan man and will have [link here soon]

(Vegan Photo Attributions: PixaBay)
(Image of Solomon, the model goat, used with his full permission)

Michellina Van Loder is a Professional Writer, Journalist and Blogger. This is where she shares her tales about trail blazing her way out of the Labyrinth of Chemical Sensitivities and Mould. This is also where you will find the latest Research on related topics.

Music: All is fair in love and war (Oriah original)

All is fair in love and war ~ an original Oriah song

One of my favourite Yogis just took the brave step of following her dream; and she made a video encouraging others to follow there’s. Here she is with the first full-length song I’ve ever heard of Oriah music, mostly, all her other songs have been covers like Bill Withers, ‘Ain’t No Sunshine Anymore,’ sung wonderfully so. The lyrics of ‘All is Fair in Love and War’ blow me away; the way she sings them brings up raw emotions that I didn’t know existed. (They are written at the bottom of the video if you click on the previous link.)

Meet Viktoriya Georgia Kosta singing ‘All is Fair in Love and War’:

Kosta Yoga: Website

 KostaYoga YouTube: Kostayoga

Oriah Music:

Uriah Music: Facebook Oriah Music

And tumbler

Michellina Van Loder is a Professional Writer, Journalist and Blogger. This is where she shares her tales about trail blazing her way out of the Labyrinth of Chemical Sensitivities and Mould. This is also where you will find the latest Research on related topics.

Kathryn Treat Tribute: #pour1out4MCS Video

Up on my blog, I now have part II of ‘New Beginnings—No Turning Back’, with Author of Allergic to Life: My Battle for Courage, Survival and Hope, Kathryn Treat up on my blog. (It took me a whole year to complete part I and another whole year for part II. And part III is in the works. Life’s a struggle. To write and edit you need a functioning brain and body. Ha, and I want to do long-form Journalism? Yes, my heart is still set on it.). But before you see Part II, and I hope you’ve already read Part I, you have to see this (all my MCS sisters and brothers who’ve seen it so far have freaked out; even so much as to cry tears of joy. And it’s possibly my most shared Facebook video yet!) It’s long over due here on the Labyrinth, so with out further waffle…

More from Rachel Meeks from Do I Look Sick:

My voice sounds a little weird because I have a cold at the moment. Please consider making your own little #pour1out4MCS video – it’s easy, fun, and raises awareness for a really good cause. Link to your videos in the comments – who knows? I may turn this into a raffle if enough people jump on board.

Miss you, Kathryn.

We miss her too, Rachel. It’s been a whole year since you made this bloody awesome YouTube clip that had me crying tears of gratitude, joy, hope and sadness all at once.

And, congratulations on your new addition to the family from all of us here at the Labyrinth. I can see that baby of yours already has the best start in life because [Miche begins singing in her best Soprano Voice:] you ditched your fragrance products for a great cause. (Good news, dear readers: Fragrance irritant chemicals, air-borne phthalates and synthetic musks won’t be around this lil’  Junior!)

perfumes with fragrance chemical irritants as ingredients, which exacerbate allergies and chemical sensitivities. Go free from fragrance for your own health and that of others

(For those of you who can’t watch the video possibly due to EHS, can only be on your computer for short bursts or can’t handle the flickering of the screen, here is a short summary: Rachel Meeks and Kathryn Treat, author of the already-mentioned book, Allergic to Life: My Battle for Courage, Survival and Hope, met up in the blogosphere, becoming friends, supporting one another, and each teaching the other a little about living with chronic illness. Meeks has endometriosis, an incurable chronic pain condition, IBS, a digestive illness, and PCOS, which causes irregular periods and infertility.

After hiding her illness she discovered that she “began to get upset at the mistreatment of people with illness. I realized the only way I could help was to speak out, make some noise, wear my heart on my sleeve, and confess that I am not well.

“If you have an invisible illness, know that you’re not alone. If you don’t, know that one (or more) of your friends probably does.

“The more we can educate people, the easier it will be to live with invisible illness.”

During the video, in tribute to the passing of our dear Kathryn Treat, Meeks pours out a bottle of perfume into the dirt in a park, promising to eradicate fragrances from her life in honour of the sage life lessons she learned from her friendship with Treat.

The moral of this video: Meeks is smart enough to recognise that Treat getting sick like that from mould, fragrance chemicals and many others, could just as easily happen to her or someone she loves. Just like it could happen, or may have already happened to you!)

Or dear friend, blogger mate, family member, author, mother, grandmother, our Kathryn would be so happy if she could watch this clip. If I were religious, I’d imagine her watching this video, delighted; but, do you know she was the type of woman, brave and strong, who went through life expecting people to be compassionate, expecting others to do the right thing; and she carried a wiseness about her, as if to say: “This does not surprise me. Of course people are capable of great compassion.” Or something like that…

And you, Rachel, and all the beautiful shiny people who give up fragrance for the sake of other people’s health, rather than your own, need to know how valuable you truly are. The lives of people, like myself, who have health conditions which are related to or impacted on by chemical sensitivities would have life so easy if all the humans who cross our paths could be as compassionate and respectful as what you have. Not everyone recognises our basic human need and right to breath just plain oxygen; and when asked, some people, who we like to call ‘Obsessive Fragrance Wearers‘, well they use even more perfume, aftershave [insert narcissistic assholes psychopath’s chemical-irritant based personal-care product of choice here] …

It’s people like you who can help spread the compassionate message, leading by example, therefore, making the world a better place.

Thank you <3

Pretty perfume bottle that reads: "friendships over fragrance irritants

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‘Do I Look Sick’s’ Interview: Allergic to Life for Real ~ Kathryn Treat

Greenpeace: Perfume – An Investigation of Chemicals in 36 Eaux de Toilette and Eaux de Parfum in 36 eaux de toilette perfumes

On Amazon: Allergic to Life: My Battle for Courage, Survival and Hope

Kathryn Treat’s Blog: allergictolifemybattle

Kathryn Treat’s Blog Post: Book Blog Tour: Day 11

Multiple Chemical Sensitivity WordPress: Obsessive Fragrance Wearers


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Michellina Van Loder is a Professional Writer, Journalist and Blogger. This is where she shares her tales about trail blazing her way out of the Labyrinth of Chemical Sensitivities and Mould. This is also where you will find the latest Research on related topics.

Information, products and views presented by guest bloggers @The Labyrinth are not necessarily the same as those held by this blog's author, Michellina van Loder. Reviews are my own personal opinions (unless stated otherwise); and satire is used throughout personal posts. Any health topics discussed are not to be taken as medical advice. Seek out medical attention if needed and do your own research; however, you're welcome to use mine as a start.
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